People sometimes engage in negative habits that help overcome an emotional state-of-mind and meet their inner drives and desires. However, such behaviors may get out of hand leaving them somewhat dependent on them. They end up indulging in them at the expense of other priorities, responsibilities and commitments. Addictions are negative habits that inhibit how one lives their life and it can have a negative effect on one’s social life, work and health. Getting over an addiction does not happen overnight. It will call for conscious work, time and effort. However, here are five steps that if you follow, can help get over an addiction:
Acknowledge the addiction
You have to acknowledge that you’re in an addiction if you are to overcome it. To do this, establish what your addiction is, the thing you are addicted to, how the addiction is taking its toll on your life, whether you can rein it in and whether you play a role in the addiction. Being aware of your addiction will quicken the process of change and bring a transformation.
Next, you must have an inner desire to be different. You have to be willing to tweak your life if you are to overcome the addiction trap. Establish compelling reasons to want to initiate change. Without compelling reasons, there won’t be enough fuel firing you to enact change.
Next, you have to own up to the addiction. Quit making excuses, blaming it on others or circumstances and justifying what you do. Stop justifying why you should continue holding onto to the addiction.
After you do this, acknowledge that you played a hand through your decisions and actions and that’s why you’re where you are. There’s no changing the past but the present is in your hands. You should therefore take the opportunity to start afresh and go down a fresh path.
Next, forgive yourself for getting into the negative habit. Finally, reach out to the people you may have alienated as a result of your addiction. Explain to them the steps you’re taking towards healing. You will need their support in the journey.
Ask yourself tough questions that will help bring clarity and guide you in overcoming the addiction. Explore on your thoughts, fears, beliefs, desired outcomes and behavior. The information you glean will help you to know the nature of the addiction. You can then use it to come up with new habits and behaviors.
Develop a new behavior
After the self-evaluation, the next step is to come up with a new behavior that replaces the addiction. Your addiction is a habit that you have built up over time. Since habits are built into our psyche, it may be hard to get rid of them. To overcome a habit, you need to swap it with another habit that meets the same needs that led you to the addiction.
Make gradual steps
Finally, take positive, proactive steps. Your goal should be to incorporate your new behavior in small steps until it becomes a habit. Of course it won’t be easy. There are times that you may relapse and recede into your old habits. Don’t beat yourself. Acknowledge it and set on correcting the mishap. Keep on going even through the difficulties and you will get to a place where the addiction no longer has a hold on you.
Of course these steps are intent on self-cure but seeking the help of a therapist or life coach can fasten the steps to positive change. A life coach will help you develop a plan towards overcoming the negative habit and also provide accountability.